I looked for the phone and when I saw it my heart sank. As I explain in , how your child perceives your attention is more important than the amount of attention that you give. Sometimes counseling can help reveal and heal what is psychologically going on. Stealing is a hostile act, so victims are hurt and experience angry feelings from being robbed. Say to him that you realize he needs more money and give him an allowance or increase in allowance.
. The lies told by this age group are mostly tales that they have made up, not intentional lies. My son admitted it and gave it back. I hope you find the support you need! Most children steal at some point in their lives. At present last 3 mths he has no access to social media because he simply can't be trusted on it. If your warning does not stop them, they still have a choice to listen or not. She admitted it to me without much probing and I appreciate that more than anything.
If she has taken anything from anyone else, it is to be returned. Julie had responded by insisting she was innocent, even when the money or items were in her room. He has decided to have a sit-down with all of us. Any advice will do, cause our next step is to take him to the police station to see if they can help scare him straight. Its frustrating and extremely hard. No amount of talking or punishment or therapy worked. What if he pockets merchandise? Some may be bored and grab the first thing to occupy them.
It is a very difficult situation to deal with. Please remember that he is still forming his idea of morality and testing out how clear you and his dad are about right and wrong. Remember, your relationship with your son is hugely important. Dear Linet I am so sad to hear about your son. And it is best to work to help him accept that he has made a mistake and work out how he can make amends and find other ways preferably extra jobs around the house to earn the money he wants. It is always a big shock when you find out your child has been stealing. I began confronting her every time I discovered it.
That is, it can represent other problems that need attending to. My wife and I have a 17-year-old daughter that we first caught stealing shortly after my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer 8-years ago. Have a discussion about respecting others and their property. You could just have a long chat or even go through this article together, and see how you can tackle the stealing and re-build the trust. When he was 12 he went to a friends house and he stole the mobile phone of his friend.
Stealing is their way for these children to express their discontent and to seek gratification. He may do this by helping around the house for money. It's embarrassing, shocking, and angering. Sadly parents now need to consider carefully if their teenagers could be stealing money for drugs. Talk to your teen about money.
The other day we were babysitting Alex the 14 yo and his sister who is 8. Talk to your daughter and see if she is willing to do that. His friends parents turned up at my house saying that he had stole an expensive piece of jewelry from their house. He visited me for a weekend with a girlfriend. There may be an emotional need or impulsivity that drives his behavior. Dear Brandon — I think that because you have posted this comment at the end of my article, you are clearly looking for ways to stop stealing.
Please scroll down to the bottom of the comments Still not sure what to do? And it is so hard to try to understand why children do things sometimes. I didn't touch the bag again until the day I was leaving-- 2 days later. After reading all your stories, I feel very sorry for you n for me too! Let him know these are special things that can only be had by kids that obey the rules. She also takes candy and treats that I keep hidden; she searches out my hiding places and eats them. She told Julie the school called to say she was short on her food deliveries for the fund-raiser.
Once you figure out how to nourish them, believe me, discipline becomes much easier. I suppose we must bear it and be patient. So it's wrong for you to take this toy. Evidence of receipts and my possessions have been found and confronted her about it. He sounds like a good kid, but he clearly gets carried away with his online gaming.
She can do it with you or her dad, but not on her own. We feel like we are losing her. There is over the possibility of more stealing going on. But if you took away time with friends. If your child denies it, then you are forced to believe your child. I wish you the very best of luck — Elizabeth Hi Thank you for the article, I am going through this at the moment, have 3 children so not entirely sure which one it is but I do suspect one above the others. Be accepting of any friends you child wants to bring home, but insist that you are around when they have their friends round and engage with them.