I am sure your family want to see you happy as well. He is textbook Narc and I cut him down to the core of his skeleton. Since figuring out my co-worker is a N, I have come to realize she is a liar and a hypocrite of a very high order. Brother will Never allow him to give in. I guess he thought getting a fulltime job was beneath him? Your hope in treating them this way is that they will get the message that they have displeased you.
He has noticed and commented on how much I have changed to accomodate him. Of course, what you are taking away is not at all, since love is unconditional. But after what we go through with these crazy people it feels more than a mountain to overcome! When has two wrongs every made a right? Lee Hi Everyone I am going through the same situation except in this scenario, I distanced myself first. Now I guess I am just too tired and have no patience or energy for that. It is only now, looking back, that I can tell you just how far I had to go to reclaim my identity. In this case, your friend has actually tried telling you to knock it off before but you didn't listen.
As ive read some of these comments i remember my 4 years of living hell walking on eggshells. Silent treatment is a malicious tool used by the self absorbed narcissist type of person to manipulate others into conforming to narcissist desires. I figure in a few weeks, i may not even care. It was always me who had to try and bring him out of his sulks. When the abuser and make no mistake—the silent treatment is a form of abuse gives you the cold-shoulder and refuses to speak to you for a period of time because you refuse to acquiesce to his or her demands.
Let them know you acknowledge that you approached the situation wrong and you would like to try again in a different way. The breaking point for me came when I had to claw back a thousand euro that he owed me. Then the unspeakable blow happened. At least now I can smell one a mile away and can run like hell the opposite way. Ostracism is severe emotionally abusive punishment. I said no and that we were just starting the party, things were running late and that I was only staying for a little bit to socialize with classmates.
Usually after Multiple warnings and discussions are ignored then the only solution to bring that person to reality and stop hurting others is silent treatment. Only people who have encountered situations like ours can understand the mental back and forth questioning as to why. Be careful about your tone when you send the second message. She likes to backstab and she hopes to not be caught in it…. Nobody wants to be shut out, ignored, excluded or rejected. Since Narcissists are master projectors, we bought into the idea that we were the ones with the problems and the deficiencies. He, whilst shocked I have attacked him, seems to revel in it, calling me crazy.
I completely understand how exhausting it can be playing the same thing over and over, but this may be more about him wanting to be close to you, feel connected to you, spend time with you. Add many of the other pathological narcissistic behaviors to the silent treatment and you get a stew of mind-bending confusion and agony. This behaviour is driving me insane. I am crushed by a complex of inferiority and worthlessness since I know myself. It is a form of manipulation, control, and of course abuse. Most victims have no idea just how good Narcissists are at pinpointing incredibly vulnerable people- in particular, people who are desperate to give everything they have to a relationship to prove themselves.
The first time we hung out together alone he told me he loved me and stupid me I should have known then. My son has watched this man destroy me for 5 years. Living with him has been a nightmare and my spirit is well and truly broken the stress of these silences has affected my health badly. When prisoners are punished, guards isolate them, because being isolated is one of the harshest punishments there is — other than physical abuse. What a bunch of malignant narcissists they really are! So to come across this has been really helpful. Their being 'silent' is never a silent act.
You actively choose not to respond to any comments, discussions, or accusations. If you honestly don't get why your friend is angry, there is the chance that perhaps it's just them. I need help to deal with this, as they both live with me. Usually a materialistic person or selfish person keep pushing the limits in their selfish and greedy demands that they become blinded to the rights of others and hurts they cause in their materialistic rampage. The other people around them see the person handing out the silent treatment to the other person and think I am going to keep my distance too. Then brainstorm ways to meet the needs with both of you benefitting.