If its more often than not or a toss up, i like to think of it as the will you respond game, then you should be asking yourself why. Like if you get silence from asking her to hang out, rip my guy. If within 24hrs she hasn't replied, I text her about a different thing and simply carry on with my day again. Agreements between two people in a relationship should be treated with respect, even if it handles something which is not considered very important. And if she takes too long to respond, tell her that you lost that thought, but perhaps spending time with her will remind you. I just leave my cell phone in the other room, while I watch a movie or sth.
Like you said, there will be nothing to talk about on the first date, if you even make it to one. That way,you have the upper hand and believe me,if she would be interested,she will contact you. Try to think of your phone as a mirror. Everything leading up to the meet up should demonstrate value, build her comfort levels and excitement about meeting you. So, I text her and call her sometimes. Don't feel entitled to other people's attention, you'll get let down easily.
But before I can help you I need to understand more about your current situation. Denying an invitation doesn't feel good to anybody. I don't know… Maybe she is busy, at work, cooking, taking care of her home, she's having fun and would reply later…? Women do this a lot like it is some sort of game to see how desperate the guy is or for her to not appear desperate. You are Christmas morning to this person! Also she might just be getting bored with her other guys so she'll hit you up until someone more interesting comes along. If she takes too long to get back, say Sorry, better luck next time and don't tell her what the offer was.
Texting a lot of women will help that abundance mentality develop naturally. Make it clear that you want to see her face to face. The nice thing about texting is you can do it when you have the time. Sometimes I will get a text late which requires him to recieve my response late. Poetry + bugging her with text messages when she is busy or is not replying is a sure way to earn a reputation of the most needy, desperate guy. Texting conditions our minds; we expect our exchanges to work differently than they did with phone calls. You spend 30 or 40 minutes talking to her the first time.
Read on to discover the 21 shocking mistakes men make when texting girls, so you can stop burning numbers and start getting dates! But one thing you should always make you feelings for her clear, If you really like her and haven't let her know, you should try telling her, and her response will tell it all. In any case I stopped playing their game and do the same thing. Also, remember, women have purses. Dating should be fun Image: Getty In fact, in terms of heterosexual relationships, game-playing on a woman's part is down to evolutionary psychology. I feel like she's lost interest already. We're always 'on' and no longer live in age of delayed gratification.
I had a similar thing going on. I've texted with many guys who don't respond for days at a time on messages I send to them. To , avoid idle chit chat like the plague. We ended up hooking up that night, and this time she said there would be no games. But if you want to and respect you more, never text back too fast. And if the guy is between 25 and our age he probably really despises texting.
Sometimes I get distracted by other things, or something beyond my control comes up. Even people in relationships experience this anxiety with texting. When we first meet someone, we score them on these. . When he is at work, he would send me a message in his break but that's it. A nice, firm ask with a little inside joke thrown in. She may just want to end the conversation or not know what to say.
You'd know him best, just ask him his view on texting and then you'll have a better idea. On this matter Dr Blumberg is clear. Try being nonchalant and treat her like anyone else. Did you enjoy hanging out with your cousin today? Remain calm in this situation. But there is one problem — this is the exam time. I know I reply quickly but women seem to take their own sweet time. I really don't know why this is.