I believe men have a natural instinct to procreate, they always look at women pre-programmed. To have a man tell you he loves and wants to marry you is a seductive experience. I really think everyone on here should try your suggestion and then mine if nothing is changing. And being insecure and jealous is a great ingredient to ruin a relationship. My youngest will be starting pre-school this year! I think I understand why women become cold…you can only take your heart being broken so long and you have to protect it.
Welcome to a new kind of website for women. He goes to say men are hunters…. I started noticing the ogling behavior a few months ago and mentioned it to him. This is a sore spot for more than one couple. Love should transcend, all of it, with a dash of honesty, understanding, and most importantly, time invested in a relationship. Another time this happened and these are the only ones I have noticed without doubt he was looking. And if you really want to make sure talk to him.
Go out for movies and those romantic dinners. I like to appreciate the beauty of the human form, actually all natural physical beauty. The same you a girl labels a guy for looking at other girls, a guy labels his girl for not taking care of her body. We are literally hardwired to stare at beautiful women. If he's looking at them for some other reason, well, you'll have to deal with that. So one day I came up with the solution. I cant be specific because he didnt elaborate on the situations that brought him to think this way but I can tell you, I do not agree with his opinion.
He is all i want and i love him so. I told him he started this shit and to deal with it! My husband has hurt me so much with all of his out of control behavior. It hurts me so much because sometimes he screams, hollers, gets mad, creates a scene, and then lies to me! I do have to say, upon much reflection, that I was so sure of myself when he behaved disrespectfully, that I did get through to him in a manner that Evan replied to me about. Why do we as women just except the disrespect? Understanding how men think and feel makes this aspect about them less intimidating. He tells me all the time, without me asking, how much I turn him on so I know he already likes my body but my fear is not being enough. Remember those Tiger Woods texts? Iguess what I really would like help with is him and why would a man feel this way. We work together and when I used to get there he would push himself against me and I would say what have you been doing and he would say nothing so I decided to look on his computer and sure enough he was looking at porn before I got there and when I left in the afternoon.
She may have big boobs that'd be fun for an hour, but you have the curvey hips he never gets tired of. Maybe men should cherish and feel lucky to have the woman he has by his side, rather than making her feel like a second rate citizen. I promise you, there are guys out there who will respect you and your feelings, you just have to stand up for yourself first! And then you need to trust him. Those people who stares and watch other people, show some respect to yourself, your partner and for the person you are looking at! Iam giving you one example about my relationship. He will try to sweeten you up, then move in for the kill, then sweeten you back up again up, then kill again the cycle continues over and over.
I too do not enjoy going out with my husband, as there is often a female issue that we end up fighting about. The thing is…its out of control and its tolerated…and that is why they get away with it. He is a good man in every other way, so I am trying to work through it, of course blaming my past bad relationships and insecurities for reacting this way. If he comments, agree with him that she is a knockout. To the point where they ignore your presence.
I keep it bottled up when I see it, try to rise above it but inside its painful and annoying. Jessie, I understand how you feel. But, today… Today, i was having an infusion at the hospital with my sweet husband sitting right by my side. I have seen attorney and because of our short marriage, he tells me I want even get half. I also agree with what someone had said that it is disrespectful. If the job treats you bad or is unfair, you will start to look somewhere else better or just straight up leave.
There really is no need to ruin a good relationship because a man functions the way he was built to function. We deserve to be loved the way we want to be loved and respected in every single way! It is disrespectful to the person you are with plain and simple. He thought the best approach is to be honest with your guy, and share how it makes you feel. Just because you love someone and commit yourself to one person, does not mean you can turn off the natural instinct to find others attractive. A relationship where you hide stuff is like getting suffocated. If I was Karen, I would tell her to watch for other signs of addiction.
Without blaming him, ask him if he thinks there's a reason your fights get so ugly. I am thinking maybe counseling would help, but someone mentioned that the man does not change his behavior. I am not going to do anything this time, but now I really need to decide do I get over it or leave? My only other option is to end things with him…. Be friends first for a healthy relationship. But they'd have to be very immature to do something like that, I'd think.
At first, I thought he was faking the tears in order to be relieved of any arguments, but it was real. The reason he stares its because he no longer care about his your feelings nor does he respect you or your marriage. They are not comparing other women to you, rather it is more like looking at fine art. And his eyes make sure they get an average of eight sneaky stares each day, sometimes for up to two minutes at a stretch. Box 14544 Columbus, Ohio 43214 614 459-8121 : : : : : : : : : : : : : © 2005 Susie and Otto Collins.