Because it happens before you can speak, it goes far deeper than anybody ever realises and can never be healed. But he doesn't accept me for me. It just feels like someone kicked me in the stomach. When your paths cross be polite if he speaks to you but don't go out of the way to chat with him. About 14 years ago what I did was not speak to him on the phone, nor be anywhere he was. However, now that you know why he hates you, you can do you best to be a better person to him, and give him love and distance.
He and my older sister are really close and they are the close in age. Hardly surprisingly, the music lessons were soon given up and from that day to this, I have never attempted to sing. I regret not knowing what's the best solution for you both. It's a tricky balance because it doesn't mean that you don't ever hang out or help him it just means that he should start developing some self-reliance and you get some time to yourself as well. I really don't like to judge him because honestly I still have my own problems and flaws but he is going to live a rebellious and destructive life if he continue this way I can see it. He tells me to shut up and yells at me and worse of all he tries to make me scared of him and one thing I have to say to that is that is not! He seems to be a terribly negative influence on your health at this point. I can't say sorry if he thought I was being selfish for how I responded to being raped.
Terrible things like this can happen, even if you're doing everything right. I don't understand what happened. Also, I know that following these suggestions may make you feel that you are letting your child get away with disrespectful behavior. Show everyone that your brother is wrong about you and it will make him look like the selfish, self-absorbed bully he appears to be. The hard part now is getting him to understand that this is a healthier thing for you both and it's not from lack of love. I hope this helped you a bit to understand what's been going on, not just now but for years. My mom sat me down the other day and told me that when I was born, like any mother, she spent the majority of her time with me.
To say the least, we are estranged like you wouldn't believe. We used to get on so well, I idolised him growing up. You might not be able to, and that's fine. Not even in my darkest or happiest days. I'm graduating from college this weekend, and, when he heard that, he called my mom and told her how angry he was that I did not invite him to my graduation ceremony.
But her brother really needs to stop, because he's taking it to a whole new level. I say this with compassion, I too have the same dynamic in my family. Siblings often develop feelings of jealousy and contempt when the attentions of their caregiver mother or father or both are transferred to a new child. If I would have had someone to relate with I wouldn't have felt so alone. He's smart but he doesn't care about going to college.
Until laziness got the best of him. The way my older brother he is 4 years older treated me when I was a kid still affects me to this day. What are your family's reactions? Okay, well maybe he doesn't live in a trailer but if he didn't pay for it, trust and believe he'd be moving in as we speak. I'm troubled because I can't express that I'm sorry to him. My brother has always been more successful than me.
I would suggest that you don't go out of your way to be with him, but don't cut him out of your life. Give It Time Will following these suggestions be easy? There is a solution to your pain, though. That's on your parents and the rest of the attention givers though, not you. Two brother that hate me by: Anonymous I am the 4th of 5 children and my two older brothers hate me. He was 5 or 6 and was spending time at the neighbor's house a lot.
A Nephew in the Picture by: Kiki I'm still Blown Away by how common this problem is. You need to talk to your parents again, be determined and show them how they can't ignore what's happening, just hoping he changes. How are you rationalizing this? But as he got older, he cared less and less about me. I'm not sure that you can say that he should automatically be able to sympathize with you over your rape due to his molestation. He hasn't spoken to me since and puts alot of pressure on my mum when I am at home.
I just can't figure out why he has hated me since I was born. I watched as Richard did no work at the shop — indeed, he boasted of getting this free ride — and often did not turn up at all. I was only able to forgive and move on with the Lord's enabling grace , which I ultimately asked for in prayer and received immediately. When the next kids comes it's more routine, more relaxed. I am so confused, i thought everything was good. I tried to kill myself a few years ago and afterward ive herad that he said really nasty comments about me and that it was too bad i didnt die.