But I would sometimes work my 40 hours and then an additional 24 on the weekend. Tell her she is the most beautiful woman you have ever seen. Sixty per cent of employees say having friends at work is the most crucial part of a happy working life. When he is alone and without you , life becomes meaningless and it will hit him hard. Is there anything that I can do to make this better for you? If we had kids though I bet it would be totally different. Don't get defensive, just listen, with a heart to heal.
I've seen signs of this behavior during our marriage but didn't make a big deal. Having managed to be strong and do the right thing and just move forward with my life, I have also seen many couples resort to having affairs so that they can feel loved again. He just gets mad and sees it as a problem, that I'm the problem. Be compassionate about her troubles, but be honest about your own struggles. He seems to blame me for petty things. I never loved or love him but I respect him and take him as he is, he never did this to me. The ones doing it all day though and neglecting responsibilities.
Maybe you could look at your relationship differently. A 47 year old man trying to impress i dont know who , because is not me, im sure of that. Some spend the day golfing with friends. Thanks for taking the time to write. Women are always thinking, Why does he have a best female friend? I shouldn't do anything to make others angry at me. I made myself snap out of it, I prayed, and thanked the Lord for giving me all that I had including my life. One has worked for so long that it seems ridiculous to change things now.
If your husband does express an openness to your concerns, then you've won an important battle and taken a huge step in the right direction. Like there was his excuse to not pull his weight. Refusing to let her know you is destructive to her and your marriage. You are right of course, it is no good issuing ultimatums unless you are prepared to act upon them. When you do this, it takes the responsibility from him and puts it on you. Choose to live in actual reality and give your spouse the gift of your presence. Your husband is into his work, and no matter how much you beg, it won't work out and he won't change.
He blamed the breakdown of his 18-year marriage five years ago on his wife's career. Have a genuine talk with him, be honest about how you feel and your concerns, without crying or getting overly emotional. It's okay for you to look at other women, in fact, it's perfectly natural. I still feel numb from the pain and indifference my ex showed while we were getting divorced, but at least I'm not in a fake marriage anymore. I am tired of being alone after 15yrs of marriage and want more. We have no children together, have been together 12 years and I am ready to leave over his addiction to gaming.
I'm starting not to care anymore, but I'm trying really hard to keep fighting for my marriage. Try talking to her about your day, your fears, hopes, and dreams. There are effective ways to make your husband fall madly in love with you again. I'm hoping that when I read it to him and him finally realizing I'm hurting so bad because I miss him he'll make an effort. You are not a victim, and you are not a hostage. His phone is in his hand every minute of every day, regardless of his surroundings.
The same, when you come home or your spouse comes home, give him or her a kiss and ask how the day went. Husband Blames Me For Ruining His Life: I Get Blamed For Everything In My Relationship So often, I hear from people who tell me that either their spouse is blatantly telling them that he just isn't happy or his actions have made this so obvious that it is just impossible to ignore. Assure him that you love him, regardless of what he is going through. A little bit will go a long way and mean everything to her and, in turn, your marriage. What could you do to make it better? It started off with a social media habit with cell phone games in tow. Essentially he is the gamer, i am the computer nerd! Give her a call or send her a text during the day to let her know you are thinking of her.
Maybe you're not one of those gaming addicts. While you strive to keep your independence, she longs to connect with you. Marriage takes work, from both the husband and the wife. She probably doesn't feel attracted to you anymore, and she may be worried about you leaving her. My husband was a truck driver for our first 7 years of marriage.
For a week it seems effective and i dont see him play anymore but i know he'll come back gaming again. I have been nothing but a devoted wife and carried out all my responsibilities as a wife and mother. She said that it was his anniversary. Tell him his behavior is damaging to your relationship. Create your own life, outside a need for having him around. Does your work husband bring you breakfast? You can create exactly the life you want. She's come out of her depression, she's started dancing, she's lost weight, she smiles more.
Beliefs that encourage self-centeredness destroy marriage. He even started sleeping on the couch. Its been one thing after another in our marriage. Fear of someone else's anger has a lot of influence on what I say or do. One or two things he could do differently that would make a big difference to you. Then, when a spontaneous time comes, it will be even less difficult to act on that idea.