You were the monitor, so you have the right to write their name if they were talking. He is a bad person because he stops them from having opportunities that everyone deserves. Ask yourself, How would I feel if I were the other person? It means understanding, or being an understanding person. If they rush past you, understand that they may be in a hurry for something important. When you argue with someone, try to control your anger.
But if you have no time commitments, learn to live in the moment. It's cheating and simply teaches the person that cheating is fine. A better suggestion, he says, is to define what a good person is in 3-5 words and rate yourself on this continuum. There are many definitions of how to be a good person. Being nice generally implies that the person is holding themselves to some sort of social norm to gain the approval of the individual they are dealing with.
Am I a bad person who is forced to conform to the idea of being good? Being yourself helps you be a genuine person who can reflect positivity into the world. Instead, laugh or shrug it off, or simply say you're sorry they feel this way. There are many reasons for compliments but that wording is very specific to the kind of person that values goodness, sweetness and niceness. And in ways that feel mysterious, even numinous, you can sense profound benevolence at your core. Most people probably don't know it means that, but if you think back to the times you've used that word to describe someone, it's at best, the expression of a neutral mostly indifferent feeling towards them. If not, then consider how you may better emulate such goodness. They may also think twice before insulting you again.
The questions I would ask is: Are you content with outcome of your actions? It also means being kind to yourself. Having a role model provides you with an example of someone to correspond to. Laugh it off and say: Yep, and I'll do it again if I'm monitor because you guys know that I have no choice in that role. These don't need to be felony offenses to make one feel or ashamed. It is best not to fight fire with fire, perhaps suggesting that the both of you take some time to think it over.
Try to realize that you don't have to have the same things as everyone else. So enjoy the journey of perfection and appreciate what you do have. At least you are standing out. Make a list of traits that you believe make up a good, ideal person. Staying true to yourself helps you find focus and understand your core values and what you find important.
When people appeal to my sense of myself as a good person to shame me into doing or not doing something, I can just laugh at them and tell them they're barking up the wrong tree. You establish boundaries and let people know when something they did bothers you. This will show you are too smart to sink down to their level and will prevent you from being harsh, aggressive, and a bad person. Being described as great, is what you should aim for. The world is a large place full of diversity. Try to understand that some have it better than you, but many have it much worse. Questions to Ask to Know Whether Your Core Is Good or Bad: — Picture a button that, if pressed, would make 1,000 strangers across the planet drop dead instantly and also make a career dream of yours come true or lead you to true love.
Make yourself available to help other people and foster a genuine desire to see them thrive. No one can change immediately. Do not bully, but instead, stand up for the bullied. Give the young good moral values to live by and teach them the importance of morals. But when I screw up and hurt people--and I do that more than I want to, and being bad does not make it okay--it doesn't threaten some idea of my own goodness, and I can't use the excuse that I'm really somehow secretly a good person in areas they don't have access to. I think every one is nice to a certain degree however I don't necessarily see it as high of a virtue as kindness.
The Practice: Know you're a good person. Put the energy out into the universe you'd like to receive. Join a Big Brother-Big Sister program, volunteer to coach a kid's sports team, teach, or be a role model for young family members. Afterwards, when given the choice between the helper and the hinderer puppets, the babies were much more likely to choose the helper. In my opinion it's a combination of kindness and approval seeking. It depends on context and inflection.